Slow and Steady

Posts Tagged ‘relationships

I’ve been thinking about this for a while, and don’t really know how to articulate it without sounding like a big headed person.

I’m blessed to have a lot of good people around me. My friends are amazing, and without them I really don’t know how I would’ve got through the past 18 months.

When I hear about some friends of others’ and see the reaction I get for some of the things I do for my friends, or the reaction I get when I say what my friends do for me, it leaves me baffled, and a bit annoyed at the world. Do people just not care for others anymore, or are my friends and I just really really soppy?

I went to hospital with a friend this week, and the night before I went online and copied a list of questions to ask the doctor. When I showed him, he was shocked, really shocked. Mouth opened, bug eyed shocked. He couldn’t believe that I had actually written it out, and even left a few lines to write the answers in. When I spoke to him a few days later, he told me that he showed his friends the paper, and they said how nice I am.

But to me, that is normal behaviour. I can’t understand the fuss, because that is what you do for your friends isn’t it?

Later in the week, I met a friend and she had a care package for me… Slightly off topic she bought me some toffee waffles and they are amazing!… Anyway, in this package there was also every article she had seen for chronic pain cures over the past few months. I started telling someone about a treatment in one of the articles, and when they asked me where I had heard about it, I told them about the care package, and they couldn’t believe it.

They were really surprised, and I was very surprised that they were surprised. Isn’t that friendship?


Story link

Some wives guard secrets from their husbands so closely, they might as well be in a bank vault.

So what’s a gal to do when a bank spills one of her deepest secrets?

A Long Island dentist is suing Chase bank to recover the more than $150,000 that she says she had to share with her hubby after a bank employee let it slip that she had a huge account balance he didn’t know about.

Nazita Aminpour, 43, and her husband, David Shamash, 47, have a joint account at a Chase branch in Kew Gardens, Queens, along with a custodial one for their three children. But Aminpour also had a secret stash of $800,000 at the branch in her name only, according to a suit filed last week in Queens Supreme Court.

A bank employee trying to be helpful spilled the beans to Shamash by cold-calling him and telling him he should take his small fortune out of the low-interest account and make other investments with Chase, the suit alleges.

Shamash said he knew nothing about the money.

“Shamash then began harassing [Aminpour], asking for money from the funds that he can invest in the stock market and to cover a margin call he had on his stock account,” the wife’s suit says.

Shamash began “alienating” Aminpour, so she forked over $155,000 “to save her marriage and restore order in the marital home,” the suit says.

She says the bank placed her in a “situation of duress.”

She also claims in the suit that the bank violated federal privacy laws that “prohibit the disclosure of non-public, personal information.”

Aminpour wants Chase to cover her loss and shell out for her lawyers’ fees.

A recent bank statement submitted with the court papers shows her with a balance of more than $1 million — 25 percent higher than in March last year, when her husband had his hand out.

Messages left at the Great Neck couple’s home and with their lawyer were not returned.

Chase declined to comment because the matter is under litigation.

This is such a sad story. To hide nearly a million dollars to the supposed love of your life is ludicrous! I’m not saying that you cannot have your own money, my gran has always said a woman needs to have something in her own name in case it goes wrong, but nearly a million dollars?

If I understand US law correctly, if they divorced she’d have to give him half if it was made during their marriage.

I think this also brings up a serious matter that a lot of couple do not often discuss until it is too late. How the other spends money, whether they have debts or bad credit history. As much as a lot of people like to deny, money is an important subject in a relationship, and it should be bought up sooner rather than later.